Why are there so many cases of stepdads molesting kids and the mothers ignoring it?

I've known people who were molested by their stepfathers and their mothers usually didn't believe their kids or IGNORED them when they tried to talk to them about it... Why would anyone do this? What do you think causes these mothers to ignore their kids or deny these things? Why would they choose some guy over their kids?Why are there so many cases of stepdads molesting kids and the mothers ignoring it?
The people I know who have had this happen in their lives tend to not see it. They're too close to the happenings. They can't believe it's happening to them. They don't want to see it. They love their husband, and this is such a horrific and terrible thing he's doing that they wouldn't know how to deal with it. Most mothers, if you were to hurt their child, would kill you. I know I would. How would I handle it if the person who hurt my child was someone I loved? Someone who I believed I couldn't do without, financially, emotionally, etc? So they go into denial.





I would hope I wouldn't. I've seen what happens when mothers do. But if you look into cases where the father of the child molested them, not step-dad but father, the mothers ignore it for as long as they can then too. It's just the nature of the crime, how horrifying it is, and how the mother just can't imagine he would do that.Why are there so many cases of stepdads molesting kids and the mothers ignoring it?
Ususally the mother does not have the same care giver attitude that is required to raise and protect a child , The male offender has usually manipulated the house hold and the mother into a myriad of dysfunctional ideas and beliefs. The step dad may encourage the idea that the step daughter is making it up because she hates the new step dad. Whatever the case may be you can bet if it goes on regularly the Mother knows about it, Whether she is willing to save her daughter and confront and remove her from the situation is another thing, Some women are glad that the father has turned sexual attention toward the daughter and not her any more. For whatever excuse this just breeds abuse and more abuse and sexual molestation whether actual penetration has occurred or not is like rape . Kids rarely know where to turn or where to go or whom to trust especially if their own mother turns a blind eye and disbelieves the situation. I believe that if the mother was told and chose to ignore and law enforcement gets involved she should be charged with accessory to the fact, for sure.
Unfortunately, some people are just weak. Some women want to believe that their worlds are good and the men in them as well. They do the unspeakable and ignore their children. It's heinous, I totally agree. There's no forgiving that kind of betrayal. In that instance I think the kid should go over their mother and tell an authority. It'll be difficult, facing their parent, but long-term it will end the abuse and the mother will be forced to acknowledge the truth.


If a mother is still in denial, angry or oblivious, then there's something wrong there. A woman like that needs professional help. A child shouldn't have to live a life of abuse. The abuse is then coming two-fold, through the person sexually abusing them and the mother allowing it. It's not right and something needs to be done about it. A person can't let that kind of thing continue, even after it ends, because the relationship with the mother is ruined.
I can think of a variety of reasons:





1. Mom's too self-absorbed or willing to believe her kid's lying for the sake of a new romantic relationship?





2. Kids don't know it's wrong. They're willing to trust parents.





3. Mom never cared about the kid in the first place.
I don't know. I know this one girl it happened to. Personally I think her mom was too afraid of ';losing'; her new boyfriend/husband/partner, atleast that's what it seemed like in this particular case.