The domestic violence industry led by radical feminist have been very successful in getting society to think only men are abusers and only women are abused. I can show you hundreds of websites on domestic violence that still have many of the popular myths such as 95% of the abused are women. Even worse, is often our tax dollars are paying to spread this misinformation.
unbiased research shows that when only one person is hit in a relationship, 71% of the time it is the woman hitting the man.
The American Psychiatric Association stated in an article in the Psychiatr News August 3, 2007 Volume 42, Number 15, page 31 that Men Shouldn't Be Overlooked as Victims of Partner Violence. This article quoted research at the Center for Disease Prevention (CDC)
These findings on intimate partner violence come from a study conducted by scientists at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). The lead investigator was Daniel Whitaker, Ph.D., a behavioral scientist and team leader at the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control (which is part of the CDC). Results were published in the May Journal of Public Health.
Part of the results were:
Whitaker discovered, of the 24 percent of relationships that had been violent, half had been reciprocal and half had not. Although more men than women (53 percent versus 49 percent) had experienced nonreciprocal violent relationships, more women than men (52 percent versus 47 percent) had taken part in ones involving reciprocal violence.
Regarding perpetration of violence, more women than men (25 percent versus 11 percent) were responsible. In fact, 71 percent of the instigators in nonreciprocal partner violence were women. This finding surprised Whitaker and his colleagues, they admitted in their study report.
As for physical injury due to intimate partner violence, it was more likely to occur when the violence was reciprocal than nonreciprocal. And while injury was more likely when violence was perpetrated by men, in relationships with reciprocal violence it was the men who were injured more often (25 percent of the time) than were women (20 percent of the time). ';This is important as violence perpetrated by women is often seen as not serious,';
http://pn.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/conte鈥?/a>
This research is backed up by other non biased researchers such as the United States Department of Justice
New 2006 DOJ stats on domestic violence
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/intimate/in鈥?/a>
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/intimate/re鈥?/a>
What is considered abuse if one person does it to another should also be considered abuse regardless of who does it. Our society actually encourages the abuse of men. One has only to watch movies or TV to see women hitting men for no reason or even kicking them in the groin and no one has complained about this abuse. If a man is depicted hitting a woman, there is an outcry unless that man is quickly taken to task and either beaten or even killed by others. One such movie is ';Unforgiving'; with Clint Eastwood where some men were killed when one disfigured a woman by slashing her face after she was verbally abusive to him.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unforgiven
In spite of this evidence that men are abused as often as are women, there is very little help for abused men.
If we do not look at BOTH sides, we will only make the problem worse as it enables women to be abusers and as the director of Shattered Men, I do know that many learn how to abuse from their mothers as many of the men and women that have come to us have been abused by mom.
We need to offer real solutions and the only real solution is to encourage a right relationship with God as can be found here:
http://www.shatterdmen.com/first_step.ht鈥?/a>Do a lot of cases of domestic violence involve the couple beating up eachother?
Men are frequent victims of domestic violence and there are some Men's Battered shelters. Women are eight times more likely, though, to be beaten by a domestic partner. Until domestic violence laws rose recently to protect women who were not traditionally afforded protection from spousal abuse and until marital rape was outlawed recently, women did not stand up for themselves physically in domestic violence situations, knowing that the ';law'; would not help her. Spousal poisoning was the woman's preferred battlearms, not fists. With legal protections, though, women began fighting back. And, the same mental and social diseases that afflict men and contribute to domestic violence also afflict women. Both domestic partners fight more these days partly due to a misunderstanding related to what constitutes ';self-defense';, that retaliatory blows count as self-defense in the eyes of the law. They do not.
http://www.endabuse.org/resources/facts/鈥?/a>
Some couples do beat each other up, many don't. Who's more likely to end up in the ER? Women since they're typically smaller and weaker than their partners. Who's more likely to be stalked and killed by their partner or ex-partner? Women are, according to the FBI and Dept of Justice.
Do some women beat up men? Yes. Is it wrong? Heck yes! Any violence is wrong. Are there services for men? Yes, there are some. Who are the majority of people seeking help? Women, and many are turned away, since there aren't enough services to meet the needs.
The battered women shelters were created by women in communities who volunteered their time and money in the 1970's in the US. It's only recently that tax money has been used to fund some of these services (which does cover services for men and women) since frankly, it just wasn't considered very important by society until recently.
I've met battered women and adult children of male batterers, but I know there are women who batter men, or fight with their partners. All our tragic. If I was a cop I wouldn't know who to arrest either. At least now the police are willing to do something about it, in the past it was a joke (police have had a fairly high level of domestic violence levels in their personal lives as well).
I honestly don't think you'll find a more truthful answer than the first one. That's the way domestic violence goes. I think the fact that many police departments around the US have started arresting both the man and woman in domestic violence calls to determine who's at fault later shows just how much domestic violence really is often a fight that gets out of control rather than just one person beating the other one. Almost every domestic violence incident I hear about in real life does involve violence from both people. Many studies you can find all over the Internet will back that statement up.
In surveys done where people are asked if they were abused by their significant other, women answer yes much more than men. However, if the question is worded to ask if your significant other punched, slapped, kicked, etc. you, men and women answer yes in very similar numbers. People don't look at domestic violence the same against men as they do against women. That's the biggest difference in numbers right there.
Fiona- It's true that men murder their wives more than vice versa, but since most domestic violence cases don't end in murder, that's not really a good way to say that men are abusing women so much more often than women abuse men. If there are 10 cases of men abusing women and 10 cases of women abusing men, but 1 of the cases of a man abusing a woman ends in death, your stats are misleading as to who's being abused more going off of deaths alone.
Go ahead and give me thumbs down, but if you actually read what I'm saying it makes sense. I still think the first answer and Patois's answer are the best on here though.
';Beat up'; you say?
More women are battered by men than the other way around. The more serious cases of domestic violence make it into 'the system': hospital emergency rooms, coroner's reports, police reports, court documents, social worker and psychologist reports.
On average, men are stronger than women and can inflict more damage. And they sure do. Women are much more likely to be choked and strangled, and to be beaten to a bloody pulp.
Self-disclosure surveys - such as the one referred to by Ken - are absolutely insufficient on their own. You need to look at ALL the information, and that information comes from a number of sources NOT JUST ONE). Only then can the real picture emerge. Example: I once threw a dry towel at a partner I was angry with. According to a self-disclosure survey I perpetrated violence. Its too ridiculous!
Battered men are way under reported because of the shame they feel in doing so. If they report being physically ';abused,'; by a woman, they often incur teasing by other males in their life and society has the attitude that ';men should be able to 'take it.''; I was a severely abused wife until my daughter was the age of four and then I finally had the courage to leave him for good. I hit him back twice in seven years. He is 6'4 and I am 5'. I have taught my almost 20 year old daughter that it is just as wrong for a woman to hit a man as it is for a man to hit a woman. Every time we would witness the glamorization of a woman slapping a man's face on t.v., I would point out that it was abusive and she better never do that. No woman has the right to hit a man any more than the man has a right to hit a woman, unless it is in self defense with intent to get away. There was a television movie done awhile back about a battered man and I was glad. There needs to be more awareness about it. Women tend to throw things, break things, scream, slap, etc., which is all abusive. Men just don't report it.
From what i have heard, if the cops are called out to the home by any one on a dispute the officer must arrest some one and that some one is most likely going to be the man because they will take it to him before her. If who ever gets to the phone first and they have a convincing story then the officer will arrest the other partner upon arriving at the seen and examination of it. it is more then likely that the man will be the one arrested from the call in any event. once arrested the DA can take the case out of the women's hands and prosecute with out her. once you are in this situation guys you are fckd plane and simple. if it is your first time out they just might give you a break.
Now i suggest guys that if a heated augment arises that involves screaming to walk away, leave go some were other then there. reevaluate the situation of the relationship at this point and if she can not talk to you in a come Mainer it is time to leave her. this is the only real choice you have to not fall prey to the law because of a fight. if you are a guy that beats your wife or girlfriend then **** you deserve to go to jail.
o and one last thing if you thank you have to hit her to be arrested you are wrong all that is needed is for the officer to determine if you are in malaise and have intent and that's it.
o and to answer the question , it always takes two to tango. only in rare cases dose the man actualy beat the women who dose nothing inreturn. fact cases have shown that the women starts it most of the time and the dumb *** man usauly finishes it which is such a stupid thing to do.
that could very well be cc in any event the man needs to eather man up and put up with any **** she is dealing out or walk away.
and just because i say that women start most of the aguments that end in this well let me tell you , starting an agument is not agianst the law but screaming back at your wife in a threatning maner , showing malaise with intent or hitting her is.
I was married to an abuser. It took me 2 years to get away from the creep. He thought it was ok to beat women. His reasoning was, women are unworthy of respect. I have no idea how I got into that relationship, he caught me at a very vulneralble time in my life. I knew this man for a year before I married him and there was no sign of anything, (or so I thought at the time). When he did abuse me, I fought back, I am sorry but I did.
Anyway, he is on the loose again and living in another state. It seems after the fact I found out that is what he does. He beats a women, get's her money, and then flees to another state. I wish there was a way to warn other women. I would gladly give his last know location and name if I knew I could get away with it.
Growing up in my home was like this. dad beat mom up. mom beat dad up. they both beat each other over some of the stupidest things in the world. like mom would beat dad up for leaving the toilet seat up. dad beat mom up for not having supper ready on time. it was crazy.
I think most violence there is both people beating each other. I don't believe it's just ONE person. after all if anyone keeps getting hit over and over they will strike back. it takes TWO people to fight. so there for it must take TWO people to hit back. people need to wake up to the fact that violence knows NO gender. violence is a HUMAN problem NOT a gender problem. God Bless
Also I wanted to add that IF my dad called the police and HE was bleeding and my mom was NOT bleeding dad would go to jail even if he was the one that got beat up. men will go to jail most of the time in these cases. sad but true.
From what i have witnessed. It takes two to tangle.
Often times, an arrest is made based on a biased view of the arresting officers. In a lot of cases, all a woman has to say is he hit me. A man usually has to have some evidence of significantly serious injuries.
Well since the majority of abuse starts when the woman is pregnant, I think it's unlikely that it's an equal fight between the partners. Unfortunately some men are raised to have control issues with women that get magnified when they are about to start a family.
According to the number of people murdered by intimate partner homicide males account for a much larger pecentage of aggressor than females. Check any government or law enforcement statistics to prove this.
No usually the male is the one doing the damage. You can look this up on statistics web sites from law enforcement agencies.
when their both hitting each other regurly, no id doesnt happen very often and usually will only get reported by a third party as the couple consider it part of their relationship.
Um I don't know the statistics but my mom and dad did it.
Any guy who allows this to happen is a total p*ssy in my eyes! sorry about the language but it is true :-D
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